Every whipstitch, the subject of my blog comes up during a conversation with an old friend, a new acquaintance, or a family member. This always surprises me a little–with so many to-do’s on everyone’s list, it’s nice when the one I’m talking with mentions they enjoy reading my blog. But what I find really interesting is how often said person will look at me sheepishly and mention that while she reads the blog, she doesn’t comment.
Or, gasp, she actually apologizes for not commenting. This happens often.
That’s when I do something along the lines of shake my head back and forth vehemently, maybe even grab her hand and say, “Never apologize for that! It isn’t necessary for you to comment! Promise! I still love you and think you’re the bee’s knees just the same!”
A couple weeks ago, y’all graciously affirmed what I feel led to do here. I’m so thankful you said yes! alongside me to fresh air over frantic trends, to cultivating community through commenting over me just standing up and having my say (no thanks). I am so, so grateful. After all, you are smart and insightful, and your words sharpen me. But a handful of you made an interesting statement in your comment to this post, and that comment went something like this, “I don’t usually comment here, but…” While no one directly apologized for not commenting, some of the verbiage came close. This reminded me of something I want to make sure you know. So if you’ll just sit down next to me for a minute, let me look at you and tell you this one thing:
Commenting here is always an option, never a requirement.
The way I see things, this is a place where we meet as friends–good friends who don’t bring expectations to our relationship. Chasing Blue Skies is an open house of sorts, a place you can come and go as you please. If you choose to sit and chat with me, wonderful! I’ll take you up on it every time. But if you’d rather just peruse the rooms and hallways, grab a few bites to eat and be on your merry way, that’s okay too.
I’d rather shut down this blog than create a space that adds one more expectation to your already trailing-to-the-floor list of things to do. We have no demands ’round here. I don’t expect you to bring anything to this blog but simple friendship. For some of you, that friendship shows itself through your comments, and as I said before, I love it when it does. But for many others (for most others, according to my stats), your friendship shows itself through heartfelt prayers or simply through your presence. This makes me smile with contentment just the same.
You darlin’ people have lives to lead. You have groceries to buy, chicken to bake, families to love. Some days your only time to read is while waiting in line at Target. Whatever the circumstance that brings you under these blue skies, may you find a good word and an encouraging breath of fresh air. May you find others who, like you, are on a quest to live true to the unique way God fashioned them and true to the way Jesus sees them. But under no circumstances may you ever find pressure to leave a comment.
So if commenting on blogs–especially this blog– isn’t your thing?
No worries. Promise.
Now onward with your day, friends. xo