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On Success and Legacy

in Being a Woman· Faith in Action· Family· waiting

Our pastor said it last Sunday: “All that matters in the end – what you see around the deathbeds – is how well someone loved.”

And my mind goes to Marie O’Neill, a woman who was never listed in any Who’s Who of anything on earth, but she was one of the most successful people I knew.

For over fifty years, my Grandma Rea lived in the tiny white clapboard house, the dot at the end of a long dirt road exclamation mark in Osage County. She had only granddaughters and treated us all like favorites, indiscriminately dishing out love like homemade sugar cookies and cinnamon rolls from the oven.

She used words for love all the time. But whether we watched My Fair Lady for the three hundred and thirty-second time or danced to Frank Sinatra or played with babies or baked and baked and baked in the kitchen, she said this a thousand more times through her actions:

I love you, Kristen.

She died a few years ago and left a miles wide legacy of love.

Oh yes, Grandma Rea was successful.

As I dive into the book of John, I read Jesus’ command for His people to love one another. But he doesn’t stop there. Over and over he says whoever has my commands and obeys them, he is the one who loves me.

When people of action speak, we listen. And when people of words act, we are inspired. And when we find a way to imperfectly do both, we find success.

If you saw Mr. Holland’s Opus, you know He felt himself a bit of a failure for never publishing his one great musical masterpiece. So when his day job – high school music teacher – ends after thirty years, Mr. Holland wonders if large portions of his life have been misspent.

On the day he packs his office to leave, he is surprised by hundreds of former students who prove he indeed did leave his mark in the world.

“We are your symphony, Mr. Holland. We are the melodies and notes of your opus. And we are the music of your life.”

~Gertrude Lang, from Mr. Holland’s Opus

Mr. Holland etched his mark on soul after soul through words and action. And after decades of investment, he found a symphony composed, a symphony of success.

{You tube is not cooperating with me , but if you’d like to watch the scene in all it’s mid-90’s glory (oh the boxy, way-too-big clothes!) click below.}

Mr. Holland’s Opus

No matter the ladders we climb or the medals we grab or the goals we reach, the only success that counts at the chapter’s end is the love-in-action story told through people, the mark we’ve left on eternal hearts and souls.

Under my roof and in my life, may I leave a legacy of love. And in the love, success.

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Comments

  1. Bev Duncan @ Walking Well With God says

    March 19, 2013 at 12:27 pm

    Kristen,
    Reading your posts, I KNOW you are leaving a legacy of love. If you only touched one heart (mine) God would consider you a success. Thanks for sharing a unique perspective.
    Blessings,
    Bev

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    • Kristen says

      March 19, 2013 at 2:35 pm

      Thanks, Bev. I pray my own children say the same thing about me when they’re grown-up!

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      • Bev Duncan @ Walking Well With God says

        March 20, 2013 at 11:13 am

        You will reap a harvest of what you are sewing. One day your children will “rise up and call you blessed” and it makes the whole journey worthwhile!!

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  2. Elise Daly Parker says

    March 19, 2013 at 12:53 pm

    Oh, I just love this. It/He truly is all about the love isn’t it. What a coincidence. I too wrote about my grandmother today. I’d love you to come by and read. http://www.circlesoffaith.org/updates-circles-of-faith/2013/3/19/where-does-your-faith-come-from.html So thankful for our wonderful grandmothers and their powerful legacies of love and faith!

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    • Kristen says

      March 19, 2013 at 2:37 pm

      Read it, LOVED it, and here’s to the Irish grandmothers and legacies passed down to granddaughters! {clink, clink} Have a beautiful day, Elise.

      Reply
  3. Karmen says

    March 20, 2013 at 8:35 am

    So beautifully put and so what I needed to hear! Some days it is hard to fight feelings of not mattering. But being a stay-at-home mom DOES matter. Thanks for the encouragement!

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    • Kristen says

      March 20, 2013 at 10:18 pm

      Oh girl, your job matters again and again, minute by minute, right on up to the heavenlies. Keep on keepin’ on, sister! You’re doing great.

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  4. Annie Barnett says

    March 20, 2013 at 10:29 pm

    This is so beautiful, Kristen. I’ve been sorting through this thing of loving well right where I am, and these words today were so well timed. Thank you, always.

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