Sometimes I think that if you’d met me 25-30 years ago, you might not have liked me so much.
I was a friend who could bring the “extra,” and I’m not talking fun stuff like extra queso or guacamole. I mean that I could overwhelm the everlovin’ daylights out of a friend.
Eventually, I became aware of the several blind spots I brought into friendships. But even as the “rinse and repeat” nature of military life taught me what works and doesn’t work to make friends, I learned that making friends can be incredibly hard. I can do all the “right” things and still strike out.
Maybe you can relate?
However you came to be lonely, it’s terribly painful in that it makes a heart feel like it’s getting squeezed in half.
Enter Desperate Woman Seeks Friends–the book I wish I’d had as a young’un who didn’t have a clue as to how to do this whole (waves hands in the air) “make friends thing.” I wrote this for that girl, certainly. AND because it’s never been harder to make friends than it is today, I wrote it for the modern woman struggling with the same thing.
Her story–your story!–could be very different from mine, but the struggle is the same.
I wrote Desperate Woman Seeks Friends for:
- The twenty- or thirtysomething needing help in connecting with people beyond high school and college–and who speak in full sentences (aka not your tiny children).
- The forty something trying to find a real friend in your fast-paced work environment.
- The fifty something who realizes you’ve spent years encouraging your kids’ friendships yet are sorely lacking in your own.
- The sixty- or seventy-year-old in the stage of life when your kids are busy with their own kids and you need to widen your circles.
- The eighty and older person who just wants to know how to use your years of immense, hard-fought wisdom to be a welcoming place for others.
I wrote it for the military spouse who’s moving again and the single gal whose friends have moved again and the person who is plumb tired of catching new people up on her old personal stories. I wrote it for the woman who’s been established in her town for a decade or two and for the person who just moved there.
And today, THIS BOOK IS OUT IN THE WORLD!!
Through a whole lotta life experience that’s seen me through every friendship circumstance under the sun, I learned how to process rejection and friendship breakups in a way that keeps me from spinning in the What-did-I-do-wrong? or “What happened?” cycle. And I learned how boundaries are our friends and about how to keep my expectations reasonable within a friendship. Most of all, I learned how to be a good friend to myself AND how to be a good friend to others so I can enjoy deep friendships with others.
It’s my hope and prayer that by the time you finish Desperate Woman Seeks Friends, you’ll know more about how to do the same. Most of all, I want you to know that while friends may fail you, your Friend Jesus never will.
Desperate Woman Seeks Friends is a sassy big sister who wants to show you how you can get from where you are to where you’d like to be. I’ll be honest, though: This book is full of real talk. So be prepared for some tell-it-like-it-is truth and vulnerable stories. (Heaven knows writing this one gave me a vulnerability hangover!)
Yep, my name is Kristen, and I’ve been desperate for friends. Have you? Are you? If so, may this book be a bold companion to you as we walk together from a place of desperate to delight.
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BONUS OFFERING!!
The preorder bonuses are gone, but I have a brand new gift for you:
Introducing Kristen & Friends Conversations: Order Desperate Woman Seeks Friends and get all 5 conversations for FREE!
I had such great conversations with these ladies on:
- Helping our daughters and other young women in our lives build strong friendships
- Finding community in new places
- Building deep relationships with introverts and extroverts
- The wisdom (or not) of having one best friend
- Finding community in every season of motherhood from the little years to the Empty Nest years
- Various friendship confessions–truths about making friends that aren’t talked about so much.
To read more about these conversations, simply visit here and scroll down a bit.
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It’s my hope and prayer that these offerings are truly a help to you as you try again to find and maintain the friendships you need. May God bless and keep you, dear one!
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